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How You Can Prepare Yourself for a Divorce

by Jamie Nichols

Divorce is a major process and will result in a significant lifestyle change. You will have a variety of emotions throughout the process and you will feel overwhelmed. The best thing you can do for your own sanity is to prepare yourself as much as possible. Here are some different ways to help you get ready for your divorce:

Know What You Can Expect

To prepare for the divorce, the first thing is to fully understand the process. Take some time to read your state's divorce laws so you know what your rights are. If you have children, you also should research child support and custody.

Heed Outside Advice with Caution

Divorce is different for everyone, and many will be happy to provide you with his or her insights as to how you should handle your divorce. While friends and family mean well, you need to only abide by the advice provided by your divorce attorney. You do not want to take any legal advice from anyone unless they hold a law degree.

Control Your Emotions

As you move through your divorce, you need to keep your emotions in check. While this can be a tumultuous time in your life, you should be careful with how you express yourself. If you behave poorly, whether by getting emotional in court, fighting with your spouse in public or online, or any other negative activity, it will reflect poorly on you and ultimately cause problems. Some judges will form their opinions on a person based on his or her behavior. You do not want to have this happen, as it can impact your entire divorce settlement.

To prepare for keeping your emotions in check, try not to vent too often about your divorce. Stay away from your social media accounts if you believe if you have a tendency of speaking about your emotions. If you say or write anything inflammatory about your spouse in the midst of your divorce, it can be used against you.

Prepare to Speak to Your Kids

If you have kids, talking to them about your divorce is one of the most difficult parts of the preparation process. If possible, you and your spouse should talk to the kids together and tell them how things will be different. Do not disparage the kids' other parent when you speak to them, no matter how you feel personally. They still have to be with both of you, so it is best to remain amicable at the very least since you will continue to co-parent.